Your value

I don’t think who you are or were ever decreases your value or potential. Perhaps only your blessings.


Focus on the good!

You find what your looking for. And what you focus on increases.

We’ve all been stuck in different thoughts and feeling and views. Here was mine, here’s how my prayers went ……

There’s so much filth the world. To much addiction and abuse. Lord, how do you deal with it? How can you stand it any longer?

Theirs this person I can’t figure out. It’s driving me nuts!

Parenting is SO hard!!

Here’s what my husband needs. Lord, please answer all my prayers on his behalf. And I told the Lord how I wanted it to work out. All the how’s and why’s.

I’m poor and behind.

(Insert your own turmoil here….)

These thoughts and prayers, and feelings of disgust and overwhelm were of different things, but the same thought came in after every one of these turmoil sessions. And it was this … FOCUS ON THE GOOD!….. I think this is one way God copes. I can’t imagine the frustration and sadness that must cross his heart. His big wonderful heart!

after a while I would stop mid thought or mid prayer sentence, because I knew the answer. And I would change my thoughts… What’s good in the world? What’s good in my world? What am I grateful for? How has the Lord blessed me?

Counsel with the Lord in all thy doings, and he will direct thee for good; yea, when thou liest down at night lie down unto the Lord, that he may watch over you in your sleep; and when thou risest in the morning let thy heart be full of thanks unto God; and if ye do these things, ye shall be lifted up at the last day. Alma 37:37

And ye cannot bear all things now; nevertheless, be of good cheer, for I will lead you along. The kingdom is yours and the blessings thereof are yours, and the riches of eternity are yours.
And he who receiveth all things with thankfulness shall be made glorious; and the things of this earth shall be added unto him, even an hundred fold, yea, more d&c 78:18-19


I had a brother tell me a dream he had. He said in the dream angles were looking at him. Not at who he was, but at him. And he felt so much love from them. At the time my brother was discouraged about his life. He was probably connecting who he was to things he’s done. …. Guys, what we do or what’s happened to us, is not always who we are. We are SO MUCH MUCH MORE.The angels know this. They love us for who we REALLY are. My brother has a good heart. As well as other qualities and talents. I’m sure one of our purposes here is to discover our real self’s. What the angels already know.

I want to talk about a few people in the bible.

David I will send thee to Jesse the Beth-lehemite: for I have provided me a king among his sons. 1 Samuel 16:1

But the lord said Unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; for the lord seeth not as a man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appreance, but the lord looketh on the heart. 1Samuel 16:7

Jesse brought all his sons before Samuel except David. Samuel said to Jesse, The lord has not chosen these. Than Samuel asked. Are these all thy children? Jesse said, there remaineth yet the youngest, and, behold, he keepeth the sheep. And Samuel said unto Jesse, send and fetch him: for we will not sit down till he come hither.1 Samuel 16: 8-11

So he sent and brought him in. And the Lord said, Arise, anoint him: for this is he. 1Samuel 16:12

From there David slew Goliath, was set over army’s, honored by the people, and eventually became king. Despite the Bathsheba thing later on, and the lord being all knowing ( In the lords all knowing, dose he know the mistakes we will make?) if so, the lord still chose David. And David did many great things.

Jonah– This guy Tried running away from wear the lord sent him to Preach repentance. We all know the story. He was thrown overboard the ship because he was the cause of the storm, spent 3 days in a whale and afterwards went and did his duty, the people repent, and the city is saved. Did God know Jonah would run away? Maybe, but he chose Jonah. and Jonah got the job done. It may have taken a storm and a whale, but still. God is patient, loving and good!

Jeremiah– Here is how Jeremiah felt about himself when God called him as a prophet.

I cannot speak: for I am a child. Jer 1:6

Here is the lords reply:

But the Lord said unto me, Say not, I am a child: for thou shalt go to all that I shall send thee, and whatsoever I command thee thou shalt speak.
Be not afraid of their faces: for I am with thee to deliver thee, saith the Lord. Jer 1:7-8

Also….. Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations. Jer 1:5

So despite our weekneses the Lord can and dose use us.

The apostle Paul– He was such a good teacher and missionary. And one who I have collected as soul family. Here are some things he did :

Converts a jailor while in prision, casts out devils, preaches with power and works many miracles. I love his conversion and testimony. Before his conversion though he persecuted the church. Here is his testimony to king Agrippa.

And when we were all fallen to the earth, I heard a voice speaking unto me, and saying in the Hebrew tongue, Saul, Saul, why persecutest thou me? it is hard for thee to kick against the pricks.
And I said, Who art thou, Lord? And he said, I am Jesus whom thou persecutest.
But rise, and stand upon thy feet: for I have appeared unto thee for this purpose, to make thee a minister and a witness both of these things which thou hast seen, and of those things in the which I will appear unto thee;
Delivering thee from the people, and from the Gentiles, unto whom now I send thee,
To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me.
Whereupon, O king Agrippa, I was not disobedient unto the heavenly vision. Acts 26:14-19

Guys, we don’t only choose the Lord. He also chooses us. We can’t judge anyone and decide there future and potential.

Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?

Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. -Paul… Romans 8:35,



Classy is not about clothes, makeup, hairstyles, accessories. It is not about being posh, or wealthy.

A classy girl is kind, gentle, sweet, empathetic, caring. She is giving, loving… she is a good person. She is polite. She has good manners and is a very pleasant person to know. She is a good friend.

You can dress classy, you can stand, sit, and walk classy, but true class is on the inside. If you gossip and insult, if you’re judgemental, if you’re cruel and hateful and immature, you are not classy, no matter what clothes you pick out, where you got them from, no matter how much money you have, no matter how you sit at the dinner table, you are not classy. Respect yourself and respect others and you will be classy. -Urban Dictionary

Thank you Urban Dictionary!

The balance between

HOLDING ON AND LETTING GO. Maybe you’ve heard the saying, sometimes holding on dose more damage than letting go. This can apply to our thoughts, ideas, and even relationships. But if it’s good and you know it’s good. Hold on!

WORKING AND BEING A MOM. A reality for so many!! feeling like your working and contributing enough to the gravy train ( out of nessicity not just wanting to get out of the house. ) and than enough time at home. Taking care of your family. Trying to be at the crossroads with your kids. When they get home from school. And when they go to bed. Supporting them in their activities . Also making enough time for husband, friends and self care.

COMPASSION AND BOUNDARIES. You can love someone and forgive someone and at the same time have boundaries in place to not get re-injured or reused.

PARENTING. need I say more!? Iv got no wisdom here. Im still in the trenches. Hang in there!!

SERVICE AND SELF CARE Service is such a huge and important thing. It gets us outside of ourselves and can be a great help for depression. And usually makes us feel good afterwards. And we are the lords hands. But while your at it you don’t want to neglect vital things you need to do for you. First off making sure your love tank and soul bucket is filled. Relax, pray, read your scriptures, enjoy a hobby, discover a new hobby, go for a walk, the list goes on. Otherwise you have nothing to give.

These are a few of the tightropes we walk. There are plenty more. What crosses you mind as you read these few? What balance are you serching for?

1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace

11 He hath made every thing beautiful in his time….

Time is a friend


So the first year after my divorce was the worst. Will call it the black hole. It really was! So many yucky feels. I got busy quickly. 1, to get me on my own two feet. And 2, to keep my mind on other things. I did some counseling as well. This was also helpful. One thing he told me was…. Time dose not heal all wonds, but time is our friend. This was a comfort that after some time I would feel lots better….. I had this one day though. All wrapped up in the black hole, in dispare. I thought back to what the counsler said. It didnt help. It was not enough. I was so miserable! I thought to myself… If time is only a friend how and when will I feel ALL better. Right after that thought a picture of Jesus popped into my head. A common one with him in the white shirt and red robe. I wasent even praying. But someone was listening to my thoughts and answered my question. That moment was so simple but so huge. And so full of truth. I will never forget. Thank you Jesus for your friendship and healing!